Essay: Domestic violence – we need to be telling a better story
PAUL CLARK says it’s time we stopped buying into “the master-servant lie” when it comes to relationships…
Change to avoid transitions
Are you someone who uses change to avoid transitions? PICTURE: Andrew Teoh/Unsplash The late American organisational consultant William Bridges names people like that. They will change jobs rather than discover what it is in themselves that keeps finding such terrible bosses to work for. They will end a relationship rather than deal with the behaviours, attitudes […]
Sight-Seeing: It’s not un-Christian to require people to treat you in healthy ways
LYSA TERKEURST, president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of more than 25 books, says, in an article first published on Religion News Service, that having boundaries in our relationships isn’t selfish…
‘The Dish’
In the wonderful Aussie movie The Dish there is such poignancy around the relationship between Mitch and Al, the American. The famous Parkes radio telescope featured in the Australian film ‘The Dish’. PICTURE: Victoria Kennedy/Unsplash It’s not something you see in films much, but it seems to describe so many of my real-life relationships. Mitch feels insecure […]
Sight-Seeing: Mining the friendship field of Christian women and men
JO KADLECEK looks at how two new books explore an age-old question…
Sight-Seeing: As churches reopen, let’s not lose the sense of sanctity in our homes
In an article first published on Religion News Service, SAMUEL RODRIGUEZ, president of the National Hispanic Christian Leadership Conference in the US, says coronavirus lockdowns have served as a reminder that the church is not a building but a “vibrant, diverse community of people”…
Towels
In my family, growing up no one had a particular towel. Whose towel? PICTURE: Anne Nygard/Unsplash You would go in for a bath, and then use one of the towels hanging on the rail. Sometimes you had to search for the driest, but the system seemed to work well. When I got married, my wife […]
Task oriented?
Are you a task oriented person, or a “people-person”? I must admit, I’m pretty task-driven. PICTURE: Glenn Carstens-Peters/Unsplash. Task oriented people wake up and think about all the jobs they can tick off their list today. Relational people wake up and think about all the people they want to see. At worst, a task oriented […]
Dependence/independence?
Steven Covey says we all go through a natural process to maturity – dependence, independence, then interdependence. PICTURE: Jason Wong/Unsplash. We start life totally dependent on our parents. We slowly develop independence; puberty giving us a big shove. The last skill is learning to walk alongside others; our spouse, parents, friends – interdependence This also […]
Divorce
Why do some relations end? For some it’s sadly like this… PICTURE: Kelly Sikkema/Unsplash After a number of wonderful years, mundane life sets in. She’s focused on the kids and domesticity. He’s always at work physically and mentally. They never just talk any more. Pressures mean prickliness between them. Along comes X. There’s a spark, […]